Most wellness and transformation professionals wander around acting like their life is made up of a random string of events with no connection to each other. They act as if they just decided to be a coach, a therapist, a healer, or a guide, as if they weren’t driven to it by a life full of experience and conditioning. They don’t see that their work was as inevitable as a river flowing downhill, shaped by every rock, curve, and invisible force acting upon it. And when they come to me for help, the first thing I tell them is, that’s not how it works. 

Self-actualization is like a constant, unseen evolution, a natural, organic unfolding that happens as we live, breathe, and simply exist. But just as invasive species or a lack of necessary conditions like sunlight can hinder a forest's growth, so too can our natural state of becoming be obstructed by the noise of modern life and the weight of cultural conditioning.

Being true to who we are is a paradox—we constantly evolve, yet most of us have felt the discomfort of being what we are not. So, while we shouldn’t try to box in our identity, there are core elements that make us up that are crucial for us to nurture. I consider these all part of our "voice."

The pulse of desire weaves through every aspect of our lives, shaping our actions, aspirations, and—ultimately—who we become. It’s not just the fleeting whim or superficial craving we often think of it as; it’s a profound force that drives our evolution.