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Avoidance wears many spiritual disguises. I have so much grace for the early phase, when your nervous system is catching up, when you’re still building the inner scaffolding and it’s truly not time yet. But there’s a point when “not yet” becomes “never,” and when you’re not actually waiting anymore… you’re avoiding.

Starting something new automatically means stepping into uncertainty and risking imperfection. It means making yourself visible. It’s vulnerable, and it forces you to be open to both rejection and reward. With the overwhelming mix of emotions in play, it’s no wonder so many people never make it past the starting line. 

There are very few things in life you can count on. People will leave and identities will shed like old skin. The world will change around you. Money will come and go, happiness will ebb and flow. Life will happen, and as it does, almost nothing will stay the same. But you do have one thing that will never abandon you: your voice.

One of the first things I had to give up in this work was caring what other people thought. Not in a flippant, surface-level, “I don’t give a shit” kind of way. I mean in the deeper, cellular sense of unhooking myself from external validation, of refusing to let other people’s opinions, reactions, or silence determine what, or whether I create.

I’ve never been what you’d call “disciplined.” I’ve struggled with structure my whole life. I can’t be rigid, and I rebel against systems. But one of the most profound transformations of my journey has been becoming someone who is devoted to their life’s work. When devotion came along, everything felt different.

Impostor syndrome doesn’t care about your resume, your accomplishments, or your intentions. It sneaks in quietly and asks, “Who do you think you are?” It whispers doubts, second-guesses your abilities, and casts shadows over your successes.

But here’s the truth: your voice is already valid.

You might think that given all the content I produce, both for myself and for my clients, that I’ve somehow graduated from the chaos of the creative process. That I’ve transcended the doubt and disarray. That I sit down to write and something clear, potent, and original filters through my fingertips like magic. But you would be wrong.

Inside me there are at least two voices—no doubt more, but let’s start there. One is loud, sharp, and extremely opinionated. She’d make a great lawyer—fast, ruthless, never unsure of herself. That’s my ego. The other is strange and ephemeral. It floats somewhere around my mind, occasionally landing right between my eyes like a nagging thought. It doesn’t tell me what to do. It just gestures quietly, like: That way. That’s the voice of my gifts.

Most wellness and transformation professionals wander around acting like their life is made up of a random string of events with no connection to each other. They act as if they just decided to be a coach, a therapist, a healer, or a guide, as if they weren’t driven to it by a life full of experience and conditioning. They don’t see that their work was as inevitable as a river flowing downhill, shaped by every rock, curve, and invisible force acting upon it. And when they come to me for help, the first thing I tell them is, that’s not how it works. 

If you’re the kind of person whose brain is constantly firing off new ideas, I get it. It’s exciting. It’s intoxicating. It’s also a nightmare when you actually need to do something with them. Instead of feeling inspired, you feel stuck. Pulled in a thousand directions. Unsure where to start. You want to move forward, but the sheer volume of ideas keeps you paralyzed.

Your life’s work isn’t just a job, a business, or a set of skills you’ve learned—it’s the unique expression of your purpose through the work you do. It’s the integration of your personal transformation, your deepest wisdom, and your desire to serve others. For wellness and transformation professionals, your work is often a direct reflection of your own journey. The healing, breakthroughs, and evolution you’ve experienced become the foundation for how you help others.

Impostor syndrome whispers that your voice doesn’t matter, that you’re unworthy of visibility, that you are not the expert others believe you to be. But here’s the truth: You cannot be an impostor of your own life.

If you wait until things are perfect, you’ll be waiting the rest of your life. That feeling of readiness is never coming. The only way out is to start where you are. To start messy. To start now.

We’ve been sold a lie about the creative process—that it should be clean, predictable, and effortless. But the truth is much wilder, much messier than we could ever know. Creativity, like nature itself, is turbulent, untamable, and full of contradictions. 

Being human means living in constant evolution—a perpetual unfolding that only ceases the day we die. This means we'll never feel fully self-expressed, at least not how we imagine. Every day, we wake up in the correct configuration—scientifically, spiritually, and existentially—even if it doesn’t feel that way. Whatever we are, right now, is what’s right for right now. But what if we still want more?

Self-actualization is like a constant, unseen evolution, a natural, organic unfolding that happens as we live, breathe, and simply exist. But just as invasive species or a lack of necessary conditions like sunlight can hinder a forest's growth, so too can our natural state of becoming be obstructed by the noise of modern life and the weight of cultural conditioning.

We’re all born with a blueprint of who we are. Made up of a unique cocktail of DNA and traits—we are a reservoir of potential crafted by nature to be distinct. But as we grow, society tries to smooth out those rough edges, molding us into something more acceptable, more “normal.” So, how do we begin this journey of rediscovering who we are? Here are four ways to start embracing your uniqueness and letting it guide you toward a life that’s truly yours.

While the path to discovering our life's work is not—and probably should not—be straightforward, asking yourself the right questions in an ongoing inquiry process is crucial in finding your way. So here are 15 questions to start you off and help guide you on your journey.

While the full alignment of business and life’s work isn’t something we wake up to one day—it is an ongoing, conscious, thoughtful process that evolves continuously—for most of us, it isn’t just an option, if you want to create the most authentic, fulfilling, and happiest life possible, it is a necessity.

Being true to who we are is a paradox—we constantly evolve, yet most of us have felt the discomfort of being what we are not. So, while we shouldn’t try to box in our identity, there are core elements that make us up that are crucial for us to nurture. I consider these all part of our "voice."

If you’re anything like me, you feel that distinctly human longing to craft a life from your deepest truth and give voice to what makes you unique, in the short time you have to be alive. But let's face it, the whole thing is kind of elusive. So how can we figure it out?

Imagine being awoken each morning by the pulse of excitement coursing through your body; a deep sense of life direction permeating your mind. Now, imagine the implications it has on your health and quality of life—this is the power of knowing your puporse. 

Every great story has a central question. The same is true for you; you are a story of the universe’s writing, and thus, your life has its own central question. This is what I call your existential question.

The pulse of desire weaves through every aspect of our lives, shaping our actions, aspirations, and—ultimately—who we become. It’s not just the fleeting whim or superficial craving we often think of it as; it’s a profound force that drives our evolution.

Your life's work is not something that happens upon you, but the organic amalgamation and transmutation of the inherently unique themes, ideas, and experiences that make you up as a person and therefore make your life up.